Sleep Divorce: A New Way to Improve Rest and Relationships

At first, the term “sleep divorce” might sound like relationship trouble. But in reality, it refers to a growing trend where couples choose to sleep separately to get better rest and strengthen their relationship.

Why Are More Couples Choosing Sleep Divorce?

Many people are realizing that poor sleep can harm both their health and relationship. Sleeping in separate beds or rooms can help couples get better quality sleep, especially if they have different sleep schedules, snoring issues, or struggle with insomnia.

According to the 2023 AASM Sleep Prioritization Survey:

• 42% of Americans do not change their sleep habits for their partner.
• 33% of adults adjust their bedtime to match their partner’s schedule.
• Men (25%) are more likely to use a silent alarm compared to women (8%) to avoid waking their partner.
• 60% of older adults (ages 55-64) do not modify their sleep routines for their partner.

Who is More Likely to Adjust Their Sleep?

• Millennials (ages 27-42): 40% change their bedtime, and 24% sleep in separate rooms occasionally.
• Gen X (ages 43-58): 29% adjust their sleep routine, while 19% sometimes sleep apart.
• Baby Boomers (ages 59-76) & Silent Generation (77+): 65-75% do not change their sleep habits.

Benefits of Sleep Divorce

✅ Better Sleep: Reduces disturbances from snoring, tossing and turning, or different sleep schedules.
✅ Less Stress: Fewer arguments caused by lack of sleep.
✅ More Personal Space: Each person gets a comfortable and restful night.

Is Sleep Divorce Right for You?

Couples may consider sleeping separately if:
✔ One or both partners struggle with sleep and feel constantly exhausted.
✔ Irritability and tiredness are affecting their daily life.
✔ Snoring, insomnia, or different sleep patterns are causing sleep disruptions.

The key is open communication—partners should discuss the decision together and focus on what works best for them. If needed, consulting a doctor for a sleep study may help identify underlying sleep disorders.

Final Thoughts

Choosing to sleep separately does not mean a relationship is failing. In fact, it can help partners get the rest they need to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. Instead of worrying about what society thinks, couples should focus on what helps them feel refreshed, stress-free, and connected. Finding the right balance is key to making sleep divorce work.